As a rule, I don’t rush into decisions. While growing up, I could never make decisions about little things, like whether to get a ride to school or take the bus, or what to drink with dinner. But I’ve always prided myself on being able to make good decisions about major matters in life. I ponder things for a long time, and eventually reasoning and gut feeling align with each other. This is, I suppose, largely because I have trouble not doing things thoroughly.
Since there are so many rooms for rent in Dublin now (so many people have been laid off during the recession or need to make some extra money for the mortgage crisis), I spent a huge amount of time this month scouring ads and visiting places. I was especially selective at first, but as the month rolled on, I became restless, wishing to find a place soon so that I could at last get settled somewhere. Through looking at places, I gained a better understanding of what sorts of things I could expect to find and what I couldn’t. I also learned that the most desirable places (which I focused on) were still in high demand because the few of us looking were concentrating in these areas. In fact, one place I had been seriously considering had already been taken, so I didn’t want to miss another good one.
On Dec. 13, near the end of my period of agitation, I visited four places. I did not at all like three of them, but one—where I eventually moved—was suitable in a number of ways: a central location, a quiet street, room for friends visiting from out of town, a large kitchen and table for meals, at least one roommate with good taste in food, and no television. It seemed like a good fit, and while there was one more place on my list to see (that I wouldn’t be able to see for another day or two because the guy was out of town), I decided that night to take the available one before it was too late. Sure it was an old building (with Georgian architecture!) with a dog, but it felt right. Since I knew I’d be leaving town for the holidays in a week and a half and since a replacement had already been found for me in Booterstown (though not without a clear offer to store my things while I was away if I hadn’t found a new place), I wanted to have everything settled—”to get sorted”, as the Irish say. So I took the place.
I moved in on Thursday, during a cold snap. My room turned out to be cold. Very cold. So is the rest of the house, though my room is the coldest in the place. For the next few nights, I tried adding layers, but I was still cold on the third night. It also turned out the mattress wasn’t that great. And being right next to the toilet and above the kitchen in an old house with little sound insulation, I could hear most everything that went on. I was also reminded how I dislike animal hair on my clothes. (This I especially should have realized before deciding to move in.) Though I have never been particularly drawn to historic buildings the way some people are, I thought I would give it a try since others seem to like them so much.
I came to realize over these three days that I wasn’t going to develop a strong relationship with my housemates. Nobody spent time in the common areas, and the quiet guy had basically nothing to say at all. It took the three of us a while to find time to talk about shared responsibilities and all that, and I realized that these were the sort of people who, even after living in the house for a few months, had never managed to buy a bathmat or second kitchen towel. Hmm.
So I decided Sunday morning that I needed to move again. The cold and the sound insulation were the main reasons, but the many other contributing factors didn’t help. Since people renting a room in Ireland almost never have a lease and since so far I had only paid a security deposit to the lead tenant (Clarissa) and not yet the first month’s rent (because I moved in early, during a month that had already been paid), I wasn’t “in too deep” and could get out with a major financial loss. Clarissa understood and agreed that if she found someone in the near future, she could give me back a portion of the deposit.
I began by calling the guy whose place I wasn’t able to see the previous weekend. He was available that evening. I scoured ads again anyway, so as not to lose any time, and made one other call. Tthe place was already taken. I decided to stick with the one place for that evening. I had a hunch about it since the guy had written to me based on my “housing wanted” ad, so he knew from the start that I would be here only six months and that I was clean and tidy and liked quiet.
So I saw it last night. It’s closer to work and to the places that I now understand to be the best for food. Farther from the yuppy area that I was infatuated with, but I was already getting over that infatuation anyway. It’s less expensive, in a newer building, and warmer inside. (Not exactly toasty, but warm by Irish standards.) Felt much homier too. Currently inhabited by a bice guy who seemed to keep a tidy place. He owns the flat, so he actually has things like plenty of kitchen towels. No table to eat at and no fold-out sofa for guests, but otherwise okay. (No table, you say? He said he used to have a small one in the common room, but he’s hardly here anyway and ended up watching the TV while eating anyway, so he just got rid of it.)
So I told him that I wanted to move in … that night. I explained my situation, which he understood, and he urged me to think about it overnight. I realized that there was risk I was making another hasty decision, but I felt I really needed to take it and just get it over with. (I’m leaving town on Thursday, after all!) So I went home, packed my stuff quickly, gave Clarissa back my key, and got a cab to my new place.
So now I’m living with Brian, an Irish guy from County Limerick who’s been in Dublin a few years, in an apartment development that was the first in Dublin, built in the ’60s when “apartment living” was new and trendy on the grounds of an old estate quite close to the center of the city. Solid construction. I slept well last night.
For those contemplating a visit, there are two adjacent hotels, the Burlington and Mespil, plus a hostel just down the street with quite reasonable rates!
I always thought that I was especially warm-blooded and that I have a low tolerance for heat, but I now realize I also don’t feel well if I’m cold. It’s just that I had never spent any significant amount of time in a place in the winter that wasn’t extremely well-heated until about a year ago (in Ann Arbor), when I started to question my preference for the cold. So basically it turns out I’m incapable of regulating my body temperature. I thought people like me are well-suited to oceanic climates like northwest Europe and the Pacific Northwest, but this presumes you live and work somewhere with central heating so that the temperature is consistent across rooms and across times of the day. Even quite new places in Ireland don’t seem to have this—mostly, I suspect, because of the high cost of energy—so I’m kind of out of luck here.
I relayed my adventures this morning to the one person left in the office at this time of the year, Don (a fellow Marylander!). He told me about how he too was freezing this weekend, having retreated to one room in his house and having covered the bathroom floor in towels because it’s so cold. He also told me that he’s seen places where the heat is coin-operated (like a shower at a campsite or something!). That way you really know what you’re paying for that extra heating!